Letting Go is Hard

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Overcoming the world is not one defining moment in a lifetime, but a lifetime of moments that define an eternity.
~Elder Neil L. Andersen

Letting Go of the Past 

Today I was thinking back to my days in High school and how empty I felt in those days. I thought it was because I never truly fit in. I tried and I pretended to like the same things my friends did, and some things I did, but there was always this emptiness in me. If you ask doctors about this they would tell you I was depressed and I needed medication, which I went on and off for years in high school and in college.

College presented the same issues for me only most of the time I was alone as I isolated myself from others so I didn’t have to try so hard. See in the past, I felt like I had to fill up my time with things, or people, or stuff…but now I know that the hole that most of us (me included) feel is the longing to be with Christ. We feel that the world judges us and see all of our mistakes. In fact, social media is obsessed with covering all of this up! But the truth is we are all running from our past selves. Instead of running, we should be surrendering to our pasts. They have shaped and made us the people we are today! Our mistakes and sins are forgiven and therefore should not be a source of constant burden that many of us continue to dwell on, even after we may have given them Christ.

Many of us feel sad and isolated because of past choices. Jesus says, “If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first. If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you” (John 15:18-19 NIV). We are going to be judged by others it is an unfortunate part of the world we currently live in but Jesus gives us hope that we are not made to sit in this judgment for eternity because we don’t belong to the world.

Overcoming the World

If you were not born in the faith or did not accept Jesus into much later in your life or even if you accepted Jesus from a young age but then walked away, only to come back into his fold, you can still overcome the world! It is not too late to start filling that emptiness and that void that you may feel. Even for me, there are times when I feel like I am holding myself together because I might physically just fall apart. These are the times I need Jesus the most. To be honest these are also the times that I forget that I need Jesus the most! This is crazy because I know that the void is caused by not seeking Him and I still feel empty and isolated and helpless! If I prayed through these times, and I have, that hole becomes smaller and smaller.

Really to overcome the world we have to overcome ourselves. We have to really bare into what holds us back and what keeps us from seeking Jesus. Many people would say fear holds them back. Which is true, but I would challenge you to dig deeper in what specifically you are fearful of? Right now, getting sick or a loved one getting sick is a huge fear! Maybe you are afraid to repeat past mistakes. Maybe you are afraid that you won’t be a good parent because your didn’t have a good model. Maybe you are afraid of loosing your job or working in a job that you need but don’t love! Any number of things can hold you back and keep you from overcoming the world!

What Can You Do?

First I want you to go back to the scripture: “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world” (John 16: 33, NIV). Jesus tells us that we will have troubles. In John 15 he told us that as believers the world will actually hate us. I don’t know about you but that gives me some anxiety! To get through this, I want you to know, understand and then accept that you will have voids, mistakes and upsets in you life. Once we accept these things, we can be more prepared for them.

Next, I want you to give all things past, present and future to Him.  First think about anything in your past that maybe causing you shame or that you have guilt over. You can write these on a sticky note or an index card. While praying, physically lift this card up the sky in an act of giving it up to God. Ask for forgiveness of these things and ask that God protect you from the devil putting them back into you heart. This is done. I want you to be firm and tell God that you will not let the past hold a sway over your life. Your choices, your guilt, whatever you wrote down will no longer be a source of pain in your life. You can even clap or stamp after you have done this.

Now it is time to look at you present. What is bothering today? Maybe your health isn’t what it should be. Perhaps, your are having problems with a child or even an aging parent. Maybe your job is not what you want. Whatever is it, and it can be a lot of things, write those down on a different piece of paper or index card. Repeat the same process as before with giving it to God, asking for forgiveness for worrying on it, renouncing the devil’s hold over it and finally stamp or clap.

The last part of this exercise is giving you future to God. Now this might seem a little silly to some because we don’t know what our future brings, but God does! God knows your future, He also knows that you are going to mess up even after giving all your fears and failures over to Him because we are human and that is what we do! But we need to acknowledge that it is ok for us to mess up and to be messy and to not know what our future holds. So I just want you to write on a new paper/card MY FURTURE. Then while lifting this up to God I want you to pray: “Lord, I give you my future. I know that you have a plan for me and I accept that plan. I ask that you forgive my future sins and help me to learn and grow from them. I thank you that you are a good and wonderful God who will never fail me and who is always with me. I ask that your wisdom guide me and that your strength be with me always from this day forward. Amen!”

This is a great exercise to repeat especially if you feel weighed down by the past or you feel like you have made yet another mistake that needs forgiveness. We can never ask for too much forgiveness and it is never beyond our reach no matter how many times we repeat our cycles.

Adulting is hard. Overcoming the world is hard. But we have the strength and love of our savior Jesus Christ and that is worth living our best life for!

Blessings,

KARA

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16 thoughts on “Letting Go is Hard

  1. Nozipho Sibanda

    Hi Kara. The world is so full of tribulation and many times I find myself wanting to go back to being a child where I was carefree. Accepting mistakes is terribly hard and especially when you can’t reverse it. Thank you for the reminder that no matter what God is there for us and willing to guide us to the next level only if we ask and let Him. 

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    1. Kara Post author

      Hey there!  Wouldn’t it be great if we could go back to being a child just for a little while?  Mistakes are a part of life but they are so hard to accept.  It is even harder when you had no idea you were going to make the mistake in the first place!  Thank you so much for reading and commenting on my post! 

      KARA

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  2. Maria Hardy

    Anxiety and depression is a very common topic which not many people like to talk about. I love that you actually put together these feelings with what the bible says. I am sure many people will gain interest when they read your articles and find some comfort in your words about G-d.

    It for sure game me some relief to read about the fact that we should leave our worries to G-d. I was reading the post on anxiety, depression and help. 

    I will keep up with your articles.

    Maria

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    1. Kara Post author

      Maria,

      Thank you so much for following me!  Anxiety and depression is something I have dealt with my whole life and you are so right it is hard to talk about!  The Bible is such an amazing resource for all things!  I am glad I could reach you in your space! 

      Blessings,

      KARA

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  3. Candy Benn

    Hi Kara,
    thank you for a really great site. As a Christian, I like the fact that you have chosen to share your faith in this way. I know that empty feeling. I didn’t come from a Christian background. My parents sent us to church just so we would have a ‘grounding’ but we weren’t loyal to any church so it was pretty much a mishmash of lessons depending on where we were.

    Christ called me early. What I lacked however is direction. I had no teacher. I committed from the age of ten however to read my bible and pray daily, so I did. I got to adulthood and the parties followed. Nothing serious, I guess. I just loved to dance but didn’t drink. 

    Do you know what happens to a log when you take it out of the fire?

    So I eventually decided very early that I would be baptized. I didn’t know where to start. However, I got to university and this group Campus Crusade for Christ was there at orientation. They were sharing some little questionnaires. First question? Is Christ important to your study life? Those words were all it took. Someone was reaching back to offer the direction I needed. Suffix to say I became a member of Campus Crusade for Christ joined the church to which the leader belonged and the rest is history

    By the way, I joined their dance team. Yep. Way to use my talent.

    I’m filled now. No more looking.

    Candy Benn

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    1. Kara Post author

      Candy,

      I love that you put in here that you joined the dance team!  Love that!  Thank you so much for sharing your story with me.  I think our stories just provide a testimony for Christ and His goodness.  He seeks out the lost to bring them into His fold.  

      You have such an amazing story!  

      Blessings,

      KARA 

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  4. Kingsking

    This is really a great post about letting go. I think many people needs to see this, I will definitely share this article!  I kinda connect and understand your story as I had a similar case when I was much younger as many people do.  This same case, mostly teenagers and they find it difficult to explain as well.  I think people should learn to ease and lean more on God, that way their problems will be less…Thanks for sharing this awesome post.

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    1. Kara Post author

      Thank you so much for sharing this post it means so much to me!  I am gald but sorry that you connect with my story.  It is the stoory of many of our youth today and that makes me so sad!  I just hope that I am able to share Jesus and His grace with as many people as I can so that they don’t have to feel empty and alone! 

      Thanks

      KARA  

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  5. Jay

    Wow, this is cool, to see someone who really understands  how hard it is to deal with adulting and also understands that depression is not something we cause ourselves. There sometimes is just a good that like you said we sometimes feel like we need to fill. I like how you’re able to explain this and I’m hoping that everyone going. Through the pain finds Jesus too.

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    1. Kara Post author

      Jay,

      Thank you so much for reading my post!  Being adult is so much harder then it seemed when we were teenagers…even in my 20’s it still seemed easy!  But absolutely we can control certain aspects of our depression but it is still there!  It is not something you are cured of (unless you have miraculous healing and I pray everyone who is touched by a spirit of depression can receive this!) it is a constant battle but we have the power and God in our corner.  That should give the enemy pause and ourselves a pillar of strength.

      KARA

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  6. Kimberly

    With maturity and adult years comes the realisation that life is never what it was and we need a new way of adaptation to cope with the demands and responsibilities that comes with it. I really like everything you shared here because I could resonate well with it. It never truly gets easy but how we deal with life and what it thrusts at us is what makes the real difference

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    1. Kara Post author

      Kimberly,

      You are so right!  Life never gets any easier but coping with situations and emotions can get easier.  We can only control ourselves and that is a thought that gives me strength knowing that ultimately I can make a choice on how I react to hard situations. 

      KARA

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  7. Md. Asraful Islam

    What a great deal of information that you have given out in this awesome and interesting article I must give you a big thumbs up… I encountered an article like this on the internet and it changed my knowledge about Letting Go: Because Adulting is Hard and gave me a new system to approach Overcoming the World…We have every step of the way in this world and it is very difficult to overcome this problem but with the blessing of God, we have to solve all those problems and move forward not to make life more beautiful..thanks a lot for sharing.

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  8. DorcasW

    Hey Kara; The kind of fair you experience in School could be caused by your upbringing. I know the past can be a horrible hurdle to get past. But what about those who want to forget the messy past but take pleasure in doing evil in the present? 

    Would not these kind need someone with strong faith to deliver them through fervent prayer?

     I know that sincere prayer changes things as it touches God to move on our behalf. But I think that some situations need the help of others to pray the prayer in agreement for deliverance.

    DorcasW

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    1. Kara Post author

      Hey DorcasW,

      I totally agree that there are so many times that we need prayer from others well!  Intercession prayer can bring peace and healing!  I recently took part in a Sozo prayer meeting in order to let go of past grievances that may have stalled my faith.  

      As for those who want to forget the past but continue to do wrong with their present they also need fervent prayer and support.  I would say that most times they have the hole I was speaking of that needs to be filled and they are choosing to fill it with things of the world instead of the Lord.  Until they can see the truth and wrongness of their actions the best we can do for them is to pray for them and support them in healthy ways that does not condone or feed into whatever lifestyle they may choose but still bringing to them love and understanding! 

      KARA 

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